A movie called “Fifty Shades of Grey” was released in 2015, bringing BDSM to viral audiences in a way no other had. It’s a whole lot different movie like “Naked and Afraid” you watched just for carrie booze u.s. marine. Despite their attention to the titillating allure of gags, whips, and chains, many fans overlooked one of the most important aspects of kinky play: safety. Kinksters set an excellent example when it comes to addressing safety during play, even though it may not seem like the sexiest topic.
Understanding BDSM Safety Concepts
Kink scenes and BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism) use a variety of safety philosophies that each have their unique focus. The purpose of these philosophies is to distinguish between abusive kinks and ethical, consensual kinks and to prevent safe play from becoming dangerous. The three most popular philosophies are.
- SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual
- RACK: Risk Awareness for Consensual Kink
- PRICK: Private Responsibility, Informed, and Consensual Kink.
It’d be such a wise idea if you could use these acronyms as a checklist to determine whether an act is ethical and responsible. In order for an act to be ethical, for example, everyone involved must take personal responsibility for their safety and be informed and consenting.
Everyone’s Safety Matters
In sexual activities involving pain and physical restraints, safety measures are necessary. However, why would the average person need to go to such lengths? Although it may seem unnecessary to evaluate and discuss the safety of less-kinky sex acts, some of the ideas contained in these safety philosophies can even benefit ‘vanilla’ individuals. Consent and risk-awareness are two concepts shared by all BDSM safety philosophies.
Mutual Consent Is a Must
Sexual interaction requires consent, which involves ongoing, active communication about what all participants feel comfortable doing. Without consent, any sexual act is considered an assault. Everyone should know a few basics about consent, which include providing consent once for a single activity, which doesn’t imply the entire blanket consent for the other activities or for the same activities at a later date.
Risk Awareness Should Also Be Prioritized
The concept of risk awareness is another tenet of safety in BDSM, which applies to any type of sexual activity. There is no way to prevent pregnancy or an STI 100 percent of the time when it comes to sexual activity. Therefore, those who choose to have sex should always be aware of the risks involved. If you’re not engaging in kinky activities, there’s no need to be concerned about the physical dangers associated with things like bondage or impact play.
Being aware of risks in situations other than kinky play involves discussing a variety of safety-related topics with partners, such as STI testing and prevention, medical conditions, and potential emotional triggers. While bringing up these subjects with new partners may feel intimidating, addressing them before any sexual activity takes place can help establish a secure environment for all parties involved. An ethical BDSM participant’s consent and risk awareness are determined by negotiating, during which all aspects of a BDSM act are discussed, sometimes in minute detail, by the parties involved. Negotiation can look different for everyone and may even involve checklists or contracts.
